Well, all the signs were there that Sawyer was ready to be potty trained (including his willingness & positive feedback about the idea). Yesterday was our big day of attempting the "one day method", one on one, no distractions, all drinks & all potty everything. By the end of the day he hadn't caught on to his "potty urge feeling" even the slightest. He was positive & upbeat, never complained about doing any of it, loved his underwear, helped me clean up every accident happily, but never on his own had even the slightest clue when he was about to "go", to even have a chance at going to the potty himself.
Last night I went to bed so confused about what to do next. According to the method I'd done, he was supposed to have gone potty on his own by the end of the day (usually less time, even). Do I do
another entire day of that? Do I just keep him in the new underwear, having clueless accidents every 1/2 hour? Do I go buy those "cool sensor" pull-ups I saw advertised on tv until he starts to understand his body better?
This morning I continued on with having him sit on the potty at opportune times, putting him in his new underwear. Not only did he not go at all, but he really
didn't want to go. He was starting to hate the potty and any talk of doing it. Wow, what a change from yesterday!
Now what?After all the reading I've done, all the advice from the doctors who wrote the "What to Expect..." series has been spot on with raising Sawyer & hasn't led me wrong. I've decided to use their potty training rules, and not push him (once a kid starts showing
hate, it's a problem). I'm in no rush to potty train him, I only tried because I really was convinced that he wanted to. If you push when they don't want to, it can really scar them, plus take much much longer than it should, and you're just making more laundry (and frustration) for yourself. Silly.
Plus, so much of the literature say that, in general, boys are older before they start to "get it", usually around 3 1/2.
There are also so many stories of just waiting until a child is a bit older, and they actually are the ones who come to the potty on their own, ready and willing, and practically doing it themselves. It's not like Sawyer is in some rush to get potty trained to start at a preschool or anything, so why not wait until he's truly ready?
So I prayed last night that I'd be in tune with him and what he needs, so that I wouldn't destroy his chances at successful potty training in the future either. Today, Sawyer and I had a very deep, gentle conversation (you'd be surprised how deep our conversations can get sometimes :), where he told me he'd like to "put the potty away, and have diapers back on" for awhile. I think that was the answer to my prayer- an
actual answer of what Sawyer needs right now- FROM Sawyer. I was very pleased with the way he talked with me about it all, and felt surprisingly ok with that decision.
It looks like I'll need to make another trip to the store for diapers.